A few posts ago I wrote about the Book Wild At Heart, in it we learn what makes a boy a boy. I am now reading the book titled Captivating which is the same authors about what makes a girl a girl. While I don’t agree with everything (like their take on Eve for instance), it has given me some food for thought. They suggest that women need three things: to be romanced, to have an irreplaceable role in a great adventure, and a beauty to unveil. As I first began to read I thought that it didn’t really apply to me because I have never been a real “girly girl”. As a child I planned to be a fighter pilot in the air force (I think that was inspired by Top Gun)! However, as I read on I find that in all honesty I really, deeply want all of these things! So as I take a peek at my life I have to send kudos to the hubby for a life time (almost) of doing a pretty good job at romancing me. Last week he sent me 35 roses on my 35th birthday and visited with me while he took me for a surprise pedicure (my toes look smashing)….However with that said I have to admit the other two are kind of nagging at me. I mean don’t get me wrong I walk on the wild side all of the time. Just last week I put a pair of running socks on that are labeled for the right and left feet on the wrong feet and I seriously left them that way. And, just moments ago I poured myself a bowl of raisin bran and it was all flakes and I had to use my Macgyver instincts and rustle me up some raisins….Bottom line, I am having a hard time seeing my sock pairing, diaper changing, taxi driving life in the light of an adventure. Now there are some who would argue that raising 6 boys qualifies, but today I crave something big! As for the beauty thing, me, myself and I have fought about this since the beginning of time. I am about as captivating as the back of a macaroni and cheese box! So girls what do you think? Are these really the three needs that we have as women? I have to say that in those moments before I fall unconscious from a long day (if I’m not in the middle of beating myself up over what a terrible mother I am), my dreams tend to fall into these categories every time…an unexpected surprise date, riding on a moped from village to village in Haiti with my handsome husband curing disease (OK in this dream we have some medical skills), and being invited to a ball and looking beautiful (a little unrealistic here-hubby is 14 inches taller than me and neither one of us can even dance the hokey pokey)….What about you? Romance, shared adventure and beauty, are you feeling it? The picture is of Lyndon and I after we ran a New Years Eve Race together....for the full story go back to February 2008. That was romantic, a shared adventure and nothing makes me feel more beautiful than a hard run!
5 comments:
I 'heart' your honesty, writing, and passion for all things boy so much...you are so wonderful and I look forward to your posts...as for the girl stuff...I do love to be romanced and I would love a great adventure and I don't think I am much of a looker...so there you go!
I think that this writer is amazing! Who even needs to read the book. I agree I want to be stunning beautiful. I want a man on a white horse with roses and a joist (sp). I want to have text books write of my adventures. For today however I will settle for ice cream and kisses from my brown eyed sweetie who is lying in my bed.
Maybe we need it all, but we don't need it all all the time. Maybe the intermittent adventure, thrown in with surprise dates, is better than having it all all of the time. Then the adventure is more adventurous and the romance is more ...romancing?... you know what I mean. As for being beautiful, I never thought that was a question.
Those all sound great to me!
I have read this book and had a similar reaction. I think her premise is right, but only if we define things on our terms. What beauty, romance and adventure means to me personally. If I feel like my husband is crazy about me and I have an engaging project to work on, I feel like a woman. The hollywood definitions wouldn't work for me.
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